How to Get Your Ex On The Phone
Erik J. Michaels
After the big ordeal that is your breakup, it is only natural that your ex will be somewhat evasive and hard to get on the phone. If you ever want to get him back, you will have to find a way around that. Leaving just the right message on his voicemail or answering machine can really make him want to call you back...and it is pretty easy to do if you have the right plan!
Before we get too into it, here is a short list of some of the things you really do NOT want to let yourself fall into the trap of doing. It is not the end of the world if you already have done one or more of these things, but since it can make things a fair bit harder you should try to avoid finding yourself in a situation where you are:
--Begging him to come back, because without him your life is empty and useless. Even if this is how you feel the Plea as it is called does NOT help your case any. Pleading for him to come back into your life just makes you look weak and like someone he is glad to be out from under.
--Making it out to be a life-and-death deal if he does not call you back. The Emergency is completely ineffective and just makes you look like a desperate drama queen. He knows it is not an emergency, so don't act like it is one.
--Making some big, long, heartfelt speech on his voicemail about everything you feel and have to get across to him, in the hopes that it will trigger something in his heart and make him come back to you. This only works in the movies...and pretty much never does in real life. Most of the time he will not even hear the whole thing, so save your breath and avoid a lot of humiliation by avoiding doing this.
So now that you know how to NOT make him call you back, here is the secret to getting his attention and all but forcing him to...self-interest and curiosity. These two powerful motivational tools have been used to get people to do unbelievable things that they never would have if they were asked any other way.
Try saying something like this:
-I just wanted to thank you, you really helped me out. I would really love it if you would call me back, because I would like to give you my thanks in person.-
This kind of line makes your ex wonder what it was he did that helped you so much, and makes the call seem less like an attempt to convince him to get back together. It feels relatively harmless, and yet has a lot of intrigue to it...he almost won't be able to help himself.
But before you go ANY FURTHER, STOP. When he calls you, if you do not have an underlying plan or strategy for getting him back, you could completely ruin your chances at rebuilding your relationship. DO NOT RISK THIS.
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