Can Online Dating Actually Succeed?

Can Online Dating Actually Succeed?

Pam Baldwin

The short answer is: yes. The long answer is: they do, but you have to work to make it happen, like anywhere else. The good news is many people find it easier and safer dating on online dating services than in real life as they can check people out before they meet face to face. It is however a different experience for men and women.

Women tend to ask themselves if online dating through a service actually works and how to actually find the right person. So, I'll tell you how it is. You are bound to get tons of messages from all sorts of guys. The key to keep them interested is to answer those that interest you and act normal. No going completely crazy that the guy is scared off by you.

So once you make contact, feel free to ask for his number or to meet in real life, especially if it seems that he's dragging his feet doing so. What's the worst that could come of it? He doesn't like it and you move on to the numerous others you have waiting to talk with you.

So on to the profile. If you're not the type that needs to hear how pretty you are but are what most people consider average, then you can post a picture. Just don't make it very big or very easy to tell what you look like because you will get guys to send emails to you trying to get to know you instead of your picture.

So what should you write? You want to show some of what you're like but not too much. Really long profiles, pictures of who else is in you life, and short stories you've written are a bit too much to handle. You need to let him try to find out more about you because that's what makes them comfortable. Besides, you want to be protected from stalkers or people who want to steal your identity.

And for the guys. You need to ask yourself the same question. Will services for online dating help you find somebody. Quickly writing an email or two (or more!) to initiate communication is much easier than actually seeing somebody and walking up to them. Remember, these email conversations won't necessarily be any easier, you still need to make that first step.

So, let's get that profile the way it needs to be. She's going to see it most likely after you've already contacted her. So remember to write it that way to fill in some of the gaps. No selling yourself to try to entice her to talk to you, but share some things about what makes you unique, that there is more to you than just that little email you sent. And you need at least 2 pictures. One needs to show that you do have fun doing those things you said you like to do. The other needs to be with you enjoying your time with some of your friends.

So, can services for online dating work for you? Absolutely, if you're willing to do things how they need to be done. But remember that building relationships online takes much more than in the real world. The good part is that you can feel relaxed with the person before the face-to-face meeting even happens.