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Dating Advice For Christian Men |
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Joseph Matthews |
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Dating Advice For Christian Men
Joseph Matthews
Blending the balance of our desires and beliefs is an ever-going process in our lives.
Speaking to you as someone who's struggled, at times, with his faith and his urges as a man, I believe I have a unique perspective on how the two fit together.
It is natural to strive to stand firm in what we believe and for most Christian men, staying within the boundaries of the church is essential for their experience of love.
These boundaries include sex and marriage.
This is not a belief for us to judge since there are validities of free will choices for us all in whether we follow it or not.
Ancient legends tell us that when we partake of sex with one another, a part of their soul lingers with ours and we carry that piece of soul around with us for the rest of our lives.
In some respects, this is true. So the doctrine to keep your virginity for your wife is a wise one.
This can present a challenge for men who strive to remain strong in their faith.
How do continue to attract a woman and foster a relationship if you have to wait until marriage to consummate it?
Sex is important after all, since marriage to someone sexually incompatible is a difficult union for anyone.
These few outlooks are especially for men who face the challenge of mixing faith and romance.
1. Clarify your beliefs
Faith guides us throughout our lifetime, is essential that you are clear in where you place your faith and beliefs.
We have ability to reason and think and we have free will. It is up to us to check out the options while deciding which path we may follow. You may embrace all the teachings of church or you may choose what you believe.
No matter what your choice, you must be clear on what it is you believe, and stick to it!
2. Trust in the plan God has for you.
Keep your faith in knowing God has a plan to unite you and the woman who is meant for you.
Since you have free will, you have to take action while striving to take advantage of all opportunities presented to you. Remember, God can only do so much.
To find the right woman for you, you must be proactive.
Going out to meet women, getting to know them and dating are not things that just happen unexpectedly. You have to make it happen. Your beliefs help you stay on the plan for your life.
3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.
You must understand that sex is a natural act, such as walking, talking and taking in air; it is something that we do. Sometimes the way some individuals consider virginity is confusing and unbalanced.
God meant for man to be fruitful and multiply. We are meant to have sex. It is one of God's greatest gifts. If we were not meant to have sex, He would not have made it pleasurable.
So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost - the real challenge is finding the right person to lose it to!
Sex has a spiritual aspect of course, since it is an aspect of finding the woman who makes you feel so very alive, whole and loved. The spiritual aspect of sex is different from the act of sex, since it touches you within a deeper level.
It is this type of intimacy you should strive to achieve before marriage, because this will help you to know if the physical aspect will be in tune as well.
Kissing, touching and hugging are natural and nothing to fear. However, sharing your dreams and hopes while gazing deeply into her eyes and relating to her internal desires is where intimacy stems and thrives.
4. Women are real people with no need of a pedestal.
You might be tempted to place a woman on a pedestal when your faith places sex as so important.
You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.
But women are no different from me. God cut us both from the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special, just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the same as respecting her.
Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.
We have to learn to love the reality of women, and not idealize them. Realize that sex is just one aspect to the females of our species. And that being human, we all share similar traits.
Understanding that women as people are just like men, this enables us to gain a better perspective of whether we are meant to share our lives with them.
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