4 Easy Things You Can Do To Get Your Ex Back
Erik J. Michaels
Going through a breakup is pretty tough, especially when you're not content to sit there and let it BE a breakup. Getting through this time isn't easy...but trying to get your ex back is even harder, right? WRONG!
Yeah, I'm serious. It can actually be easier to get your ex back than to face the pain of being without him or her! All you have to do is go about it the right way, and these following four things can really help you do just that, even if a couple of them might not seem like they'd really be much help.
1) Get out of the house, and have some fun! Going out with friends in spite of troubles like this can really help your entire world, relaxing you and getting your life back on track. Even if you don't feel like it's even possible to have a good time at a time like this, do your best to have fun anyways!
What does this have to do with getting your ex back? Fair question, but it's relatively simple. Staying out there and keeping on the scene and in good form is a great way to show just how strong you are...it builds a sense of admiration for you to be able to keep on living when so many let breakups cripple them. It'll get you attention, either from your ex or from other members of the opposite sex...which will get your ex's attention for sure.
2) Look back over your past relationships, focusing on the most recent. It may be painful or seem like it's no use, but you have to do this if you plan on actually getting back your ex effectively. You have to come up with a clear understanding of the things you did in your past relationships that helped cause them to fail. You can't get past your mistakes if you keep making them.
And playing the blame game isn't going to help you any. Forget about anything your partners may have done to make everything fall apart. The only person you can change is yourself, and so you need to make those changes if you want to have a hope of working out this relationship or really any future ones as well. Focus on your own issues, and make sure that you're giving 100% to whatever relationship you may be in.
3) Don't let yourself slip on the side of physical appearance and hygiene. When people fall to pieces over a breakup and spend their days slumped in their sofas sobbing into a gallon-bucket of ice cream, it tends to show on their midsections...and that's not attractive, and not likely to get your ex back. Keep in shape, at least as good as you were when you broke up. It's far more appealing than the alternative.
4) Top #1 most important thing (even though I'm listing it at number 4) is to make sure that you go about the "plan of attack" very subtly and stealthily. I don't mean stalk the poor person, but take things slowly and smooth-like. First off is to not even talk to the person for a little while, just give your ex some space. Chances are, it'll be appreciated because you're not exactly the first person he or she wants to talk to right this moment.
When you do make contact, keep it light. A simple phone call about his or her well-being is sufficient -NO TALK ABOUT FEELINGS OR GETTING BACK TOGETHER-. Your ex doesn't want to hear about "the two of you". Simple consideration is all you want here. LATER you can get into a little bit more contact, until eventually you start spending a little time together again.
At this point, it's win-it-or-lose-it time. Again, hitting the gas too fast will just destroy your chances, so keep it simple and fun. Do things together that you both enjoy, and enjoyed doing as a couple. Be the best person you can, and show how hard you've worked to stay your best and even become better than ever before. Make your ex feel as happy as your best times as a couple, and it should slowly start to dawn on your ex that perhaps quitting wasn't the best idea...
I can't guarantee your specific situation will fit easily into the space I've mapped out for it, but that's going to happen when every relationship is made up of two completely unique people...but I can tell you that these guidelines I've given you will help you in any situation. At least keep them in mind as a way of thinking, and you'll have a much better chance of getting your ex back.
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