The 5 Deadly Sins Of Relationships
Erik J. Michaels
The list of things that can happen to harm one's relationship is staggering, but probably the most unbelievable thing about it is that nearly everything that regularly causes couples to break up is, simply put, STUPID. At least 95% of relationship issues are totally avoidable with a little common sense, loyalty, and integrity, and you can see that by looking at the following 5 most common culprits for relationship death.
1) Infidelity. Also known as CHEATING on your partner. Boys and girls, if you can't seem to fully comprehend the idea that sleeping around is a BAD thing to do that can emotionally destroy your partner...you deserve to be alone, I just feel bad for the person who loved you and got hurt because of it. The rules are simple: don't cheat. When you commit to a relationship with someone, that means everyone else becomes OFF-LIMITS. Honestly, there's no reason you should even want to breach your partner's trust in you...not if you have any shred of human decency.
2) Being demanding and controlling. Everybody's probably seen at least one comedy movie where a happy-go-lucky guy is assaulted by his ogre of a woman, who can't seem to let go of the leash long enough for him to walk into the kitchen. Sure, silly facial expressions and overemphasized gestures make you laugh, but inside you know there's a part of you that's thinking "I'm so glad that's not ME getting a phone call every 10 minutes asking where I am." Well, don't make your partner that person...if boys and girls can't get along and trust each other, there's not much point in even having a relationship at all. Have a little trust.
3) Lack of emotional support. Everybody has feelings, regardless of whether or not they like to advertise them. The one person we'd rightfully expect to honor and pay attention to those feelings is our partner. When the person you love doesn't consider or pay any attention to how you feel, it really hurts! I know TV has made it out to be that women are the only ones ever upset because their men aren't emotionally sensitive, but guys do have feelings as well. Don't neglect your partner's feelings, it's just needless hurt.
4) Letting fights get out of their role. Whenever two people are stuck together for extended periods of time, even if those people love each other desperately and passionately, there are going to be clashes where one person feels one way and the other a different way...that's life, that's relationships. It can even be healthy to clear the air sometimes, but when you let a fight expand outside the boundary of being helpful, it starts really harming your relationship. Don't just shrug off your partner's concerns, but don't take fights too seriously either. Oh, and a tip for making fights a little less impactful: give in every now and again. ;)
5) Stagnancy in a relationship. It's genuinely sad to me whenever I see or hear of two people who loved each other like crazy just sort of dissipate from lack of any real passion in the relationship. People, never forget what a blessing every second with your partner really is, and help your guy or girl feel that you feel that way in any way you can. Lack of spontanaeity and activity dulls relationships down to grey fogs that eventually just disappear, and this is the saddest waste of two loving hearts there is.
These are the five top "destroyers" of relationships...and most of them should never have a chance to ruin anybody's relationship because they're just ridiculous. Respectively, each one of these problems could be easily avoided by having just a little loyalty, trust, consideration, coolness of mind, and dedication! These are things I'd expect any happy couple to have...without them you'll be lonely and in pain, as will the person you love.
So before you do something that'll jeopardize your relationship, stop and think. Is it really worth it to hurt your partner and become alone? Have a brain, and have a heart.
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