Don't Rekindle A Dying Romance Fuel The Fire This Valentine's Day
Rick London
Even Ozzie and Harriett if not the Cleavers, got bored with each other as the years passed. Of course we still love our signicant other but we are fed up with the day to day routine. Don't just rekindle the flame, or fan the flames, douse it with deisel fuel and make it burn bright! Valentine's Day as a way to show our love, a reason to try something different, and then make it a habit, a new way of life to change the parameters and depth of the relationship. I know from many interviews with couples that these ideas work and are a blast to do.
Touch or carress or both, at least once that night. Hug her (or him). Say I love you, even if it feels a bit shaky at first and you haven't said it in awhile. Go dancing. Whether it is going dancing or giving each other a "private gift certificate" for a mutual massage that night. Don't just write the certificates, do it. Or really go dancing, slow dancing, or both. Hold hands window shop at the mall. Ask your significant other to pick out something he or she has been wanting. And buy it. A public show of affection can have a powerful influence. Even though you may be thinking now more of the others bad habits than their romantic touch, this is not the day to be thinking of that. It is a day to celebrate the romantic part. And try to remember it. Taking a day to celebrate it in a fun way, will surelyi help do that.
Don't order in pizza that night, make a four-course French dinner served on your best china. If you are not a great cook, find a recipe book or a specific recipe on the Internet. Don't reveal your cooking plans to your mate, only that you are cooking tonight and would love their company. They may be expecting a t-bone steak but this time try an exotic spicy ethnic dish, perhaps some wine, and candlelight with soft music in the background. If you feel uncomfortable in the kitchen, make a formal invitation to dress up and go out to an elegant little French bistro or Italian restaurant. Just make it fun and different than the regular routine meal. Watch her (or him) smile in amazement. Send a surprise gourmet lunch to your loved one's workplace. Order it over the phone, pay by credit card and send it from "A secret admirer". When your partner tells you of the gift, just give a mischievous smirk. They will understand. Then hug and kiss her (or him) on the cheek and say, "Happy Valentine's Day".
Wear something sexy underneath that evening, if you are a female, try a thong rather than your regular undergarments and perhaps a nice negligee over it (or no negligee at all, just the thong under your clothing). If you are a male, try some sexy boxers or bikini shorts. If you both love to laugh but forgot how, where something funny and sexy underneath. Of course, reveal this after your romantic meal while the soft music is still playing. There are several online stores that carry this kind of merchandise. Watch how fast this can bring back those old almost-forgotten passionate feelings. One caveat, take a deep breath, it can feel a bit overwhelming at first.
It may not sound like much, but a few of these little things can work magic to fuel the fire of an old relationship that feels stifling. Just try a few and see what happens. You will want to do it again and again, even when it is not Valentine's Day. And that's a good thing.
Rick London is a cartoonist, writer, and entrepreneur and founded the largest independent cartoon site on the Internet Londons Times Cartoons. He also owns the popular sexy/fun undergarment shop, A Thong In My Heart http://www.athonginmyheart.com/ Fuel The Fire On Valentine's Day At A Thong In My Heart
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