Small Changes/big Changes
Kenrick Cleveland
'Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.' --Albert Einstein
Change is hard to define. Some changes, such as significant weight loss or selling a house in the current market, seem to take a very long time (or at least that's what it feels like). Other changes happen instantly, irreversibly, like the loss of a loved one. Many people are highly uncomfortable with change. They hold on to things trying to avoid the inevitable. One of my grandmothers had the same hairstyle for 40 years, lived in the same house for as long, dressed in a similar manner, had many of the same friends, went to the same church, and shopped in the same grocery store. She did not like change. These all gave her a sense of security. It worked okay for her but she never grew beyond what she was 40 years prior. Holding on to the old does not keep us more secure, but for some, the familiarity is more than enough to compensate for that.
The world around us is constantly changing. The weather changes, time changes, seasons change. . . there is absolutely nothing we can do to hold back and working against it is incredibly detrimental to our growth.
Now in my late forties, I am making personal and professional changes myself. These changes are uncomfortable and scary, but thrilling at the same time. I am facing this fear and excitement eagerly. Growth comes from change and I'm all about growth.
Taking inventory is always a good first step in determining what needs to change in our lives. Internal change, as oppose to external change, is, to a degree, something we control. When to leave an unhappy situation, when to attempt a business of your own, when to start a family. . .these are all things that can happen at unexpected times without a predictable timetable, and understanding how to manage our fears about change is the key to fulfillment.
If you're one of the many people with the fear of change, this is for you, a new start, a chance to stop robbing yourself of the opportunities available to you with a little risk.
The first thing to realize is that your resistance to change is emotional. And emotional resistance is really difficult to overcome. It can be done. Lately I've been thinking a lot about emotions and how each and every emotion we have is a choice. This has really struck a chord in me and given me a new found sense of freedom over what I choose to feel.
We allow ennui to overtake us, a general sense of weariness, and this requires us to really want to push past it. I heard someone say the other day, 'I really wish I wanted to quit smoking.' Is this person going to quit smoking? No way. Motivation is definitely a huge factor. For some, changing can come out of a fear of losing something valuable to them (their life, their family, their job). Others have a fear of the unknown. These are both valid but regrets are seldom about things we have tried, and often about the things we were too afraid to try.
Part of what I am changing has to do with developments soon to come in what I am offering at Max Persuasion. Please stay tuned for new classes, new opportunities to expand your persuasion and your life.
Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn the business of wealthy clients using http://www.maxpersuasion.com/ persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in http://www.maxpersuasion.com/ persuasion techniques.
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