Resolutions
Kenrick Cleveland
Here we are again, starting a new year with a clean slate. I love this time of year because it has all the hope of a new beginning and the opportunity to recreate ourselves one more time. I find this a very optimistic time and enjoy setting an intention each new year. The concept of creating our resolutions thrills me as I am relentless about self improvement and welcome every opportunity to map out a beautiful future.
As tradition dictates, this is the time of year when we make our resolutions. Some people's resolutions are simple, some very complex. We all have a fervent hope that we can stick to these resolutions (though many times we fall short). We have financial goals, physical/health goals, creative goals, relationship goals. We want to learn to play the violin, dance the tango, find true love.
It took me many years to 'get it'. I would make my annual resolution to lose weight but somehow, it didn't ever end up happening (notice my "passive" involvement, as opposed to an active relation to change). Why? Well, the passive involvement is one thing. The physical addiction to sugar (which I'm told is more difficult to detox from than heroin) was keeping me heavy. And then there are the mental blockages. Ultimately, wanting is not the same as doing.
As I've written in previous articles, something finally clicked. I'm well on my way to achieving the health goals I've longed for as well as figuring out the keys to self improvement on all levels.
Our first step in actually succeeding with our resolutions is to turn inward and reflect on exactly what it is that we want. Write it out, like a letter to your other than conscious self, and give it some details, some substance, so that you can really begin to see yourself as a non-smoker, so that you really understand what financial freedom is, so that you picture yourself as a fit person. Frame these desires in the affirmative. Instead of writing, 'I don't want to be fat anymore', write, 'I am achieving optimum physical health through exercise, proper nutrition and a positive mental attitude.' Remember, all things are possible.
Another important aspect is to truly understand what is draining you. Maybe you have friends or family who are sabotaging you. With weight loss as an example, maybe your brother sends you chocolates or tries to get you to go for the old comfort food. Well, your brother, while he most certainly loves you, is not really on board with your resolution and you have to set some clear boundaries.
Elicit your own deep emotions in relation to how you will feel once your goal is achieved. You can anchor yourself to this feeling and whenever you pass up a cigarette, whenever you make a move to whatever it is you want, let that anchor fire off. The good feelings will make the task at hand much easier.
And last, but not least, visualize. This maybe should have been the first on the list, but I am always saving my favorite until last. Visualization is the core of intention and self actualization. Visualize your bank account and investments increasing. Visualize your grateful lungs after three months without a cigarette. And as always, be grateful for what you already have and for what will be yours.
Happy New Year.
Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn the business of affluent prospects using http://www.maxpersuasion.com/ persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in http://www.maxpersuasion.com/ persuasion techniques.
|
