Soulmate Relationships: Are They Fact Or Fiction?
Margrit Harris
With divorce rates reaching 60% it's easy to suppose that soul mate relationships are little more than a myth or wishful thinking.
I'm here to tell you soulmate relationships are real, and they are alive and well. Where most of us get tripped up is in the definition. We're led to believe that this "soul mate" is a magical, whimsical, almost surreal being living in complete harmony with us. Though this is partially true, soul mate relationships are more every day than we think.
The Encarta Dictionary defines "soul mate" as "Somebody with whom somebody else naturally shares deep feelings and attitudes."
Now you might be saying, that's exactly why soul mate relationships are only fiction. Nobody has this kind of a relationship anymore. And that is true to a certain extent. Today's relationships have gotten much more complex than in years gone by, when roles were more defined. The man knew what was expected of him as did the woman, if it fit their personality and skill sets or not.
Today we have much freedom. Freedom to allow our true nature to unfold without gender restrictions, however, this freedom creates great need for negotiation. Negotiation creates the opportunity for sharing deep feelings, wants and desires.
Today, more than ever before the stage is set for creating soul mate relationships. All we need to do is understand the facts about soul mates.
For starters, over our 35 collective years of working with people in relationships, we have identified four different soul mate types. Each has slightly different characteristics, however each type can create a satisfying soul mate relationship. The key is understanding the differences and specific traits and making them work for us.
Just this past week Jenni had an amazing a-ha. Jenni said what she wants most is for her man to listen to her, to be her confidant. However, her family observed that she has a far greater need, the need to be taken care of, demonstrated in part by how her husband pays most of the bills, gets her car serviced and readily reaches for items on the top shelf in the kitchen for her, just to name a few.
Jenni didn't buy this observation until she took the "What is My Soul Mate Really Like?" Quiz. Then she realized that she really did need The Hero Type. More importantly it dawned on her what a jewel of a man she had attracted. Jenni and her husband deepened their understanding and appreciation for each other with this one simple new insight.
Soulmate relationships are fact! It's all about discovering what type you are, what type he is, and how these types naturally best meet each others needs almost magically.
So, what is your soul mate really like?
Margrit Harris, MSSW, is an international relationship expert who creates http://www.soulmatemagnets.com/ContentPage.aspx?ID=93&masterPage=~/MasterContent.master) soulmate quizzes, compatibility tests, and self development programs for single women.
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