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Creating An Adoption Life Book When Information Is Slim |
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Lisa copen |
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Creating An Adoption Life Book When Information Is Slim
Lisa copen
Making a life book may seem a bit daunting. As you collect the information you have about your child's life before he or she came to live with you, it may seem discouraging that so little information exists
Each adoptive family varies in the amount of information they may have about their child's birthmother. Some families have a relationship where the birth mom may actually baby sit for the family occasionally, to seeing them for a visit once a year, to having no contact whatsoever.
Oftentimes a family may have more than one adopted child the birth moms of the different children have different relationships with the family-if any. So the involved birth mom may even send notes or small gifts to the sibling of the child, so everyone feels included and loved.
If you have a good relationship with a birth mom you may be able to get any information you wish for your child's adoption album. She may even be eager to assist to help dig up information or answer questions to help your child have an amazing book.
If you don't have very much information about your child's birth or birth family-if any at all-don't worry. You can still design an incredible book that helps your child understand his or her history.
For example, one of the most essential pages of the life book is about the biological mother, but you may not even have a photograph of her. Be sure to include a quotation or poem about how birth moms may feel when making the adoption choice for their child. Then write something for the book like, "Did you know that birth moms and dads give their special DNA to their children. I'll be your beautiful smile and dark eye lashes came from your mom!"
It seems hard to imagine for many people, but adopted parents may not even know the actual birthdate of their child or where he or she was born. Rather than making a big deal out of this in the life book, write something like, "We think you were probably born sometime during the winter of 2005. The director of the orphanage said that you weighed the same as the other children born around that time."
Don't forget that it's not the amount of information that will make your album complete, but the love and effort that you put into the adoption book that your child will notice most. As your child grows older and asks more questions about his place of origin, you can do research together to help answer his questions. But don't put off creating an adoption life book because you don't have all the information you wish you had. Children love reading about themselves and they even enjoy making up their own stories to fill in some of the blanks.
http://www.scrapbookadoption.com/ The Adoption Scrapbook Album is a fast, easy way to create a personalized lifebook. Use transparency overlays and friends will admire--even though you aren't crafty. Free poems and quotes from Lisa Copen at http://www.scrapbookadoption.com/ Scrapbook My Adoption
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