Persuading Through Desires
Kenrick Cleveland
I spend a lot of time thinking about persuasion. Over the last year and a half I've spent a tremendous amount of time thinking of self-persuasion and self-mastery and as a result have noticed some phenomenal results in my life.
The only way to make progress in the outside world is to make progress on your inside world.
asking the right questions you will naturally lock on to the right answers. I've been using this as my guide and have begun to ask myself the right questions.
What is the real make up of a human being? Where do we come from? What is our organic makeup?
It's philosophical. . . I know and that's not always comfortable for more technical or process oriented people because it can be vague and open ended. . . but give it a try. Where does the subconscious mind live? It lives in the body. What then would be the influence of the body on our subconscious mind? If the subconscious mind lives within the framework of a human being, must it carry with it then the frame work of that body?
And the answer is, yes.
Our bodies carry genetic programming that directly influences our subconscious mind. Our genetic programming influences our thought processes. Through our learning, our adaptations, our experiences, we formed values.
So what is more fundamental than values?
I'll tell you. There are four core drives that supersede most every other drive of a human being. The first and most important drive is the need to eat, to sustain oneself.
If you stopped eating right now and didn't eat again, your life would end. We eat in order to continue. Continuing is a genetic drive.
This drive can most definitely become perverted. . .think gluttony. It becomes not about survival and continuing, but something else.
I began asking myself last year, what's the difference between my need to eat and my drive for pleasure? I used to say things all the time like, 'I can't wait for dinner tonight because I'm going to really feel good eating the kinds of things that my wife is going to make me.'
If you're eating for pleasure, like I was, then you're going to hurt yourself. I started to persuade myself that it's more important to eat to survive, to eat to continue, than it is to eat for fun. I continually work to make the right choices and it isn't always easy but add to that the diabetic factor and a few other health issues and it starts becoming more and more clear choice.
There is some research that has been done recently on why do some people when faced with huge health issues change and other people don't. The desire to eat turns into something so perverted, so infected, so unhealthy, that the concept of 'continuing on' is not even a priority anymore. (More on the other kind of perversion/desire in an upcoming article on the fourth base drive.)
The question for me became: how can I learn to eat to survive and continue, not for the purposes of enjoyment? And this focus helped me to understand that for me, I had to find enjoyment in other things.
Coming soon: the remaining base desires of fight, flight, and reproduction and tips on how to use these impulses, urges and drives to persuade like crazy.
Kenrick Cleveland teaches strategies to earn the business of wealthy clients using http://www.maxpersuasion.com/ persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in http://www.maxpersuasion.com/ persuasion strategies. You can get a http://www.uberarticles.com/?id=36684&b=79 unique content version of this article.
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