Blaming & Complaining Violate the Laws of Success
Cheryl A. Clausen
Until you accept full responsibility for your current conditions you'll use excuses, blame others, and complain about your lack of success. None of those habits and behaviors move you closer to success. They only take you farther away from success, and they do so rapidly. Whether you like your current situation or hate your current situation you have yourself to thank. When you realize that you created whatever your experiencing now you can take responsibility for changing it. And you will make those changes through your plans and actions.
Even though you may only see the negatives now realize there is something good and something that could be better in every circumstance. Examine your responsibility for what you're getting now. This is a very hard thing to do because it's much easier to blame someone else or make excuses for your own poor performance than it is to face that you made this mess and you have to clean it up.
But rather than accepting taking responsibility now when customers don't buy you blame them saying they don't see the value you offer even though you've made it as plain as day, or that they're just bargain hunters, or that the competition isn't playing fair. But when customers don't buy it's your fault because: you don't know how to market your solution, you haven't created more value than the money you're asking for, and you don't stand out as the clear choice or even a good second choice. The same is true if you're an employee who didn't get the raise, promotion, or job offer you wanted. You didn't get it because: you didn't know how to position yourself as being more valuable than your current salary or the other candidates, you didn't demonstrate how you create value not only in what you do but in how you help others to do their job better, and you didn't stand out as clearly worthy of the raise or promotion or job. Ask yourself what's right with the current situation? No matter how bad things look to you now there is always something good about a current situation that you can make better. Build on your strengths and use them to take you where you want to be.
How can you adapt the results you're getting now to get the results you want? You usually don't need to throw out everything, but you do need to change some things about the way you're behaving and the actions you're taking now. Speaking of actions
There isn't any value in bothering yourself about what anyone else is or isn't doing. You'll never be able to control the actions or inactions of others so stop trying to. Focus on the fact that your success hinges on the actions you, and only you do or don't take.
Because you control your results and your destiny you have to take actions, and you have to stop allowing yourself to make excuses. Excuses are just self-defeating drivel. Excuses are what you can expect from little children because they haven't yet learned that they're responsible for themselves, not an adult like you. So stop complaining, stop making excuses, stop blaming anyone or anything else and start taking full responsibility for getting different results. Your only competition is you, time, and resources so look within yourself for the success you want develop solid plans and implement those plans through daily action.
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