6 Big Factors For Breakups
Erik J. Michaels
Each day, more relationships fall apart...it seems like the list of things that can end them is endless, but really most of the biggest killers are fairly simple. If your relationship is in danger or has already broken apart, I'm here to help you by listing off some of the main reasons people go their separate ways. Once you know what causes a breakup, you can usually fix it!
1) Cheating on your partner is a vicious and hurtful act that probably leads to the most broken hearts of anything ever done to cause a breakup. It destroys your partner's trust in you, and that sort of thing never comes back all the way, even if you do manage to overcome it. If you don't want cheating to demolish your relationship, don't cheat.
2) I know it sounds a little corny, but everybody has feelings and emotions, and when they're not cared for properly it can really make that person feel unappreciated and like his/her partner doesn't care. Even if the person knows in his/her mind that's not true, it can still feel that way...and that can lead to some serious relationship problems. Don't let your lover feel that way, always make sure that he/she feels as loved as he/she is.
3) Everybody knows that no relationship goes on for very long without the occasional fight...but it's important to not get too fired up in these conflicts. A bad temper and refusal to calm down and listen is the absolute of all the WRONG ways to handle fights. Take things with as level a head as you can muster, and try to address real problems rather than petty squabbles and gripes. Make your fights productive, not destructive.
4) I know it's been glorified as one of the most hilarious "unpleasant situations" by TV and movies, but being stuck in a relationship where your partner is constantly looking over your shoulder and demanding to know every minute detail of what's going on at all times is an emotionally draining tax on the lover's soul. As much as your boyfriend or girlfriend may love you, acting this way will cause him/her to not be able to stand you. If you can't trust anyone, you're going to be alone...so try to loosen up on the reins.
5) A lot of relationships these days end because one or both people just gets bored from a lack of spontanaeity and fun. This is really sad to me, because people who are so in love should never get bored of the object of that affection. If a relationship isn't kept alive with good clean fun and being together isn't the joy it should be, there's something wrong. No relationship should just "peter out" because you two don't do anything together anymore...even if you're both busy, you should be able to find time to spend with the one you love.
6) There's not a person in the world who doesn't have one single annoying habit, and for the most part that's not a problem...but when something you do really grates on your partner's nerves, try not to do it so much or if possible not at all. Irritating quirks like biting your fingernails or drumming on the table aren't usually showstoppers, but things that really irritate your partner cause unnecessary tension that could make other little everyday problems stack up and amount to a real situation. Try to consider your partner's feelings, and work on your bad habits.
There are a lot of things that can contribute to the "demise" of a relationship, and these are really just a few of them...but by thinking this way you should have a good shot at identifying any of the things that are really hurting your relationship...and if you're in the middle of a breakup, then addressing problems like these could really help your chances of getting through it with your partner still by your side!
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