If you're serious about getting back together with your ex boyfriend, let me tell you that it's not going to be easy by any means. Any healthy relationship is give-and-take, with a healthy helping of compromise and sacrifice...but if you take my advice, your fight to get him back can be a little less difficult.
It's a pretty reasonable assumption that if your ex was the one who did the leaving, it's because of one of two things. Either he was getting tired of the relationship growing stale from lack of activity between you two, or he was running for his life from a woman who couldn't let go and let him live his own life. Either of these two possibilities is plenty enough reason for a man to want to leave.
Whatever the issue that chiefly contributed to the breakup, it was probably something you did or didn't do. That's a little harsh I know, but that's just how things usually work: the brokenupwith does something to drive the breakerupper away. So how do you manage to get him to come back? Well, you stop doing whatever it was that made him run.
Analyze yourself and come up with the things that you did to contribute to the end of the relationship. Once you've figured out what you're responsible for, you can do something to fix it. If yours is like one of the cases I've mentioned, I can help you a bit.
If your main problem was a stale lack of activity in your relationship, you just have to pick it up a little. Get out, do stuff with him! Since right now you two probably aren't speaking, make this a new mindset of yours rather than putting it into effect right this instant. Just think of things for the two of you to do together that are fun for both of you...no relationship should die because nobody was taking care of it.
If you were being a bit controlling and refusing to back out of his personal matters and let him live his own life, you need to realize that boxing the guy in isn't going to prevent his escape. Oh sure, we laugh when we see a guy being hounded by his girlfriend on TV, but in real life it's a different matter. Having somebody constantly looking over your shoulder and nagging you is horrible, and even if you feel you're entitled to butt in everywhere, you need to relax a little and have some confidence that he can run his own life.
After the breakup, give your boyfriend some space and time to pull himself together. A breakup is hard on both people, and pressing him now is a bad idea that could only seal the deal. Instead, do this self-evaluation and work I've been talking about, and when the time is right you can contact him again. However, when you DO contact him, make sure you're keeping it light and simple. Too much too fast won't help you.
If you play your cards right in the initial contact, you guys will probably start seeing each other again face to face. When you get to this point, it's a smart idea to spend your time together doing things you both always enjoyed as a couple. Doing this stirs up happy memories and paints a better picture of you in his eyes. It could even rekindle some feelings.
And while you guys are spending time together, be sure to allow the work you've been doing on yourself to shine out and be noticed. Don't wave a yellow neon flag that says "hey look what I did," but if you let it speak for itself, the work you've done will probably impress him to no end.
Where you go from here is up to you. I can't say that any given method will have a 100% success rate, but the advice I've given you here is pretty much priceless. If you're careful in your execution and sincere in your dedication to fixing the problems, you have a very good shot of getting your ex boyfriend back.
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