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Eliminating Children's Behavioral Problems |
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Dr. Noel Swanson.. |
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Eliminating children's behavioral problems
by Dr. Noel Swanson..
Expectations are important in life as they form the foundation of our conduct and behavior. Parents have expectations that form a vague picture of what their children should grow up to be. These expectations are formed unconsciously from our own wants and desires.
The key is to have positive and reasonable expectations for your children. How do you establish a set of positive child discipline expectations? How do you know if your child discipline expectation is even reasonable? These aren't easy questions to answer.
To come to any reasonable conclusion about the reasonableness of your expectations you will have to do some research ? inside and outside. Outside, compare your expectations with others; don't compare your children with other's children. Look into what the established child behavior guidelines are for your child's age. If a child at one is not expected to construct a full sentence, don't expect it from your child.
These books will also help you look at your child more objectively. It means that you will look at the child and his capacity without bringing your own desires and aspirations into it. For instance, if the established guideline is that children don't develop full sentence speech till they are at least a year old, expecting a full sentence out of your six-month old isn't a reasonable expectation.
Children cannot be compared, and it is one of the most common mistakes parents make when they compare their child with the neighbor's. If your child happens to be average in studies, try your best to help him improve but learn to accept it. All children are not born to be geniuses. Your child might have some other talent; look for it and develop that instead of harping on grades.
Having unreasonable expectations of your children leads you to disappointment and your children to feeling like they can't measure up. Neither of these situations is positive and should be avoided since they tend to lead to child behavioral problems.
It is equally important to convey your reasonable expectation in child behavior to your child. You can formulate a set of goals in different areas of child discipline, and hold to them. Make sure to reward your children for meeting those expectations and encourage them to reach more, once they've reached one.
The key to parenting is to remember not to push your desires onto your children. It often happens that parents impose their own unfulfilled dreams on their children and expect them to achieve what they failed to do in their lifetime. Nothing can be worse than this. So, take some time out and look at your expectations and assess how reasonable they are. Reasonable expectations promote growth and positive self image and are an essential parenting skill.
You can visit visit http://www.good-child-guide for some good tips on effectively dealing with children's behavior problems.
Dr. Noel Swanson has a free newsletter with expert parenting advice and also writes frequently for Yes Parenting website. You are welcome to reprint this article - but get your own unique content version here.
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