Tips for dating a single mom
1) Be understanding. As you may know, most single moms can’t
drop everything on a whim to spend time with the men in their
lives. However, with the proper planning and rearranging, most
single moms enjoy a wonderful dating and social life! So, just
give her a little notice.
2) Be understanding. Most single moms are (or should be) careful
with their home space. For instance, a wise single mom wouldn’t
consider having you exposed to her children unless she really
knows and trusts you. For instance, she may not let you meet her
children immediately or she may not invite you in after a dinner
date. Another example is that a single mom may opt to meet you
at a restaurant as opposed to allowing you to pick her up from
her home. More than likely, she’s protecting her home space.
3) Be sensitive. Many single moms are products from painful
divorces and hurtful past relationships. With this being so, a
new man in her life might need to be exceedingly sensitive and
aware that some single moms are a little gun-shy or fearful of
being hurt.
4) Be realistic. Lots of moms are not looking for a make-shift
daddy for their families. Most women are working, educating
themselves and successfully raising their children on their own
without a father in the house. So, for starters, don’t assume
that the single mom that you’re dating wants or needs you to
play “daddy” or spend time with her kids (early in the
relationship). Focus your time on getting acquainted with the
“woman” you are dating. Forget about the other stuff. After all,
she’s not really a big “package”. Think of it this way: you’re
spending time with a beautiful woman. Not the beautiful woman,
plus her ex-husband, plus the children, with the dog and divorce
lawyer!
5) Be patient. A single mom will more than likely move a lot
slower than completely unattached women. A single mom, is less
likely to “fall into bed” with a man that is expendable or
temporary. This is not because she is “scared” so much as she
understands that she can’t afford a lot of heartache and drama
in her life. She understands that her emotional state affects
her children. So be patient.
6) Be honest. Don’t play games with any woman, much less a
single mom. If you’re looking for a quick unattached situation,
let her know it at the onset. Who knows, she could be looking
for something casual too. However, mislead her by spending
excessive time building trust and intimacy only to abandon her
later. This is sophomoric, childish and cruel. Instead, be
forthcoming about what you want from the relationship and be
brutally honest. A simple conversation about expectations could
ward off a lot of anguish later.
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