Parents and loved ones always seem to put a damper on our love
life. When you feel that you have finally found the love of your
life, the problem now becomes getting your family to accept your
guy and see how charming he really is. Sometimes, it can be
tough to get them to see what you see in your guy. Sometimes, in
their well-meaning attempt to make sure that you get the best,
they encroach into your private life – where you ought to be the
sole decision maker.
I am sure you have had the experience of introducing your date
to members of your family and afterward, had your parents,
brothers and sisters gather around you to give you their opinion
on the guy.
Sometimes these opinions may be just what you want to hear, but
sometimes you are saddened and disappointed, when they tell you
that they don’t like your new guy. If your guy is truly a lover,
someone that is making you happy, there are ways you can get
your family to know him better and see him for who he is.
Start by inviting him home for dinner with your family. Be sure
he wears something that you are certain will impress your folks.
He doesn’t have to wear formal attire. He can be casual. You
know the kinds of clothing that will impress your folks. If they
are not into tattoos, it may not be a good idea for your guy to
rub his tattoo-covered arm in their face. A long sleeve shirt
may be a good idea, at least until they get to know who he
really is on the inside. It is quite easy to have a negative
opinion of someone based on his outward appearance. If your
folks are not into tattoos, they may put him in the “Bad-biker”
category, when in reality he is just a cuddly teddy.
Moments like this need to be handled with the utmost care. It is
hard enough that he will be meeting your family, who will
undoubtedly assess him from head to toe to ascertain his
suitability for their lovely little angel. Parents sometimes
have a hard time understanding that you are old enough to take
care of yourself, or that you have already been doing that for
quite a long time now. No matter how old you are, they still
think you are their little princess, and they feel obligated to
protect from the bad boys of the world.
Before you invite your new beau over for dinner, tell your folks
ahead of time to relax and make your guy feel at home. Let them
know that you are watching their every move to make sure they do
not ruin the moment for you, or embarrass you by asking your guy
questions you have not even discussed with him. You know -
questions like, “So when are you getting engaged to my
daughter?” or, “You have to have a good job, if you want to
marry my daughter.” This line of questioning will certainly make
both you and your guy feel very uncomfortable.
When the day finally arrives, everyone has been properly
introduced, and you have gathered at the dinner table to eat,
start your conversation by sharing those things that endear your
guy to you. If he has a special skill or talent you think will
impress your folks, share it with them. If he is an excellent
artist, a great athlete, a brilliant student or professor, let
your family members know his great qualities.
Be sure to keep things light and funny. Always strive to make
comments that put him in a good light. The picture you paint of
him will largely determine whether or not your family members
will change their opinion of him. You hold the key to your
parents accepting your guy. You simply have to know how and when
to use this key intelligently.
Once dinner is done, and your guy goes home, he should call your
folks to thank them for a wonderful dinner, and also to let them
know that he thoroughly enjoyed meeting them.
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